fear and hatred of trans women is absolutely central to patriarchy. it underlies the most common acts of homophobia - every time someone gets called a f*ggot or bashed for being an effeminate male. it underlies the violent construction of masculinity - the orders to man up, don’t be a pussy, don’t act ‘like a woman.’ fear of trans women is the specter that our culture congers up to stifle empathy for women in little boys. it is used to demean and dismiss strong women both cis and trans.
to support transmisogyny, or to fail to support trans women, is to strengthen one of the central pillars of patriarchy. transmisogyny is a patriarchal act. it doesn’t matter who is doing it, the effect is to support patriarchy.
1. buy them new clothes and other accessories to make them feel more comfortable 2. slam dunk the old clothes into the nearest donation center where they belong 3. respect your child’s identity and use whatever name and pronouns they want you to use